Have you ever experienced life on a slow simmer, at its own smooth pace till it thickens too much and you have to add water and then it turns out runny, again to be left on slow simmer? Before we go any further, I do want to eliminate any confusion about what is up ahead. This is not about confusion created by chronic fatigue syndrome or binge drinking. That would make an interesting write, but for some other time.

Coming back to the confusion curry, which we prepare once in a while, is based on the recipe with too many options. For instance, an ice cream parlour can spin your head with confusion. The crossroads of life, which we have and will hit, are pretty much the same. Albeit, that doesn’t happen too often in life, where every option is unmistakably remarkable. The brighter side is that you do recognise it’s a crossroad, there are options and it’s not a dead end. First, lets make it clear, there are no dead ends in life. We always have options. Number of options depend upon our willingness to expand the hope and reduce the hopelessness.

Mind may get blurred in the moment when we cannot see the end result clearly or put too much weight on seeing the end result that we forget to be in the now. Confusion creates foggy headedness and with these clouds we inevitably take the easiest, most comfortable path of least resistance.

The nature of mind is such that to save itself from the stress of confusion it habitually does not rock your comfort area. Each time we get stuck in the predicament, we make the same routine decisions and create a beautiful pattern. A web of seemingly easy choices, not changing anything and yet feeling stuck. Furthermore, we have all the stories ready to justify the decision and convince the world about how smart we are. How many times have you repeatedly made all the deluding decisions right for you?

Let us take confusion on its head and analysis it. What if confusion was a gift of time to look at the available options? And the fact that there is fogginess with the current situation, what if we could expand the periphery and look at what would be never possible, only in our heads, and what will it take for us to make it possible? I hope this is not too confusing. If it is, then it is working. It is the time to pause.

Value confusion, for it’s the sign of change and that the current options are not good enough. Here are a few ways you can work with confusion:

1.  Ideally, begin with mapping your confusion areas in life. Recall the times when you could not make a decision on your own and had to rely on any ally.

2.  Ask yourself “Can anyone else take decisions on my behalf?” “Is my situation completely similar to the one I am going to rely on for an answer?’ “Am I seeking validation for my decision which means I don’t have the strength to follow through”. When you start this process. Many ideas will cross your mind. Take time to reflect and answer them.

3.  Once the groundwork is done, write down all your options. And even those which seem far-fetched and bizarre. Well, you are not going to lose anything. Maybe you gain expansion of awareness that you are capable of much more than what you have possibly thought.

4.  These options in front of you are reflection of your thinking from a point of view which only you can see. Add more options. Don’t sell yourself cheap. Don’t underestimate yourself. Don’t short-change your future by basing your options on the past. Add more.

5.  Now choose the option which does not make you feel who you are at present. The one which will change your being. The one which will surprise you. The one you have never chosen before. The one which makes you lighter. The one which does not please anyone or validate you. The one which creates a whole new you.

You are all knowing. Just believe in the light shining within you, waiting for you to find, follow and radiate.