“I told her she needs to put her foot down otherwise it will continue this way”. “The problem is his attitude”. “This is the only way we will find the solution, there is no other way”, “He doesn’t listen to me”, If you don’t do this you will be in trouble all the time”, “I am strong I can handle this”, “How can I fix this?”

If you have heard someone or your mind say these, then you are perennially looking for problems to fix. Better still, either problematic situations or people will be looking for you in a quest to be ‘fixed’ or ‘bettered’. The challenge of solving other people’s problems, finding solution to own issues, keeps us going up and down the escalator
of dopamine, the reward hormone.

You are rewarded by attracting challenging situations, by believing that life is difficult, there is no way without hard work and no one gets it easy. As the attraction of not- so-easy situations happen you fire the shot at the start line. Diving deep to solve it. You feel deeply happy and satisfied to have fixed it yet again. Dust settles, you ruminate on your strength and how people seek your advice, dopamine is released and search light switches on for the next mountain of challenge.

Zoom out and you will realise, the problems, situations, people and rewards remain the same. You will find yourself at the same place where you were many years ago, even after fighting many battles, holding the fort, resolving all the difficulties, overcoming hurdles of life.

Our association with pain, suffering, toil, hard work as the only way to success, strength and reward has created a circuit of attracting difficulties to prove to ourselves that we can solve them. We take pride in fixing matches. We take pride in rising from ashes; however, we never move up and on from there.

Challenge yourself with this thinking:
– What if life could be easy and you had no problems to solve?
Would you be bored? Would you be out of work?

– What if the problem you solve today is much higher, deeper than yesterdays?
Would you have moved forward? Would you be solving more meaningful
problems?

– What if you woke up each day thinking how can you open up to invite ease into your life?
As life would get easier, in your mind and not with technology, would you build the present on happiness and not difficulties? Would the next set of problem be easier?

– What if the path to success is based on the belief that we attract true
happiness from making life easy?

– What if you truly start attracting happier, joyful, easy going people and
situations?
Would you mock them or question how some guys have all the luck? Or
would you change something deep within to just be with ease?

Notice people who pack a lot, achieve a lot in a day and still have time to play golf, drink, meditate, go out. On the other hand, there are those who are complaining, putting in hours, still cribbing about no time to breathe or life. The former has invited ease and not walking around with the boulder of changing the world on their shoulders. For them, problems don’t exist, only various solutions as options.

The joy is in living life simple and easy and not fixing it. Make room for light, take a pause, you will find it. In the simplest way when you let go of control.